Supporting Coworkers

We’ve talked in the past about support from peer networks and from family and friends, but there is another group of people that you spend a lot of time with. Coworkers.

And as someone who spent a lot of time during his first legal job hiding his mental health challenges from coworkers(and the rest of the time fighting with HR for an ADA accommodation), I can say that it isn’t always obvious when someone is struggling. And with many people still working remotely, there are additional challenges.

That said, there are absolutely things that you can do to support coworkers. If in person, and you notice ongoing changes in their behavior, take note. For example, if someone used to be talkative, but is now more withdrawn, that could mean they are having a hard time, even if the interactions you do have seem happy and positive. Other changes to look for would be a pattern of tardiness, forgetfulness, disorganization. It might be hard to see, but there is usually some sign.

For me, it was often being withdrawn. I might smile and say everything was okay, even when I was struggling mightily. And your coworkers might smile and say everything is okay, even when you check on them. This brings up another point, they should be ready to talk, never try to force them. Because even if they don’t want to talk, you can show them they are not alone, that someone does care for them by asking. And that can make a huge difference.

Yet what about remote workers. Undoubtedly, the physical difference makes it more challenging. Yet with Zoom, FaceTime, etc, there are many ways to check in on someone virtually. And again, simply taking five minutes to check on someone can prove that they are not alone.

If they want to talk, just listen. Support doesn’t mean solve. Given them a supportive, empathetic ear can go a long way. Don’t worry about saying the wrong thing. And know you can always refer them to outside resources, even if they don’t want to talk. Those resources can be Employee Assistance Programs (EAPs), Lawyer Assistance Programs (LAPs), traditional therapy, peer support like what the LegalMind Society offers, and so much more.

And if you want more tips for supporting coworkers with their mental health, feel free to reach out to us here at the LegalMind Society. A big part of our work is education, and we'd be happy to help.